Tum main kuch kami hai,
Tum main naheen, toh uss main kami hai,
Iss dastoor peh he toh dunya bani hai,
Bin aal aulaad, tum main kuch toh kami hai,
Tum chaho kya, tum mano kya,
Gharz uss say kisi ko kuch naheen,
Bus lakeer kay fakeer jo na ho tum,
Toh tum main kuch toh kami hai,
Azal se abad tak, chalta aaya hai bus yehi,
Umar kay takazay kaho ya kuch aur,
Loagoon kay sawaaloun ka naheen hai jawaab,
Toh tum main kuch toh kami hai,
Yeh kaisi khahish hai, yeh kaisi marzi,
Kon karta hai aisa, kyun kehtay ho khudgharzi,
Hum toh maang rahay woh jo hai riwaajh,
Bus tum main he kuch toh kami hai,
Na hoti toh kyun kartay aisa inthakhaab,
Batao bhala kon bhirhta hai iss baat per,
Billawajah kartay ho iss baat peh israar,
Toh tum main kuch toh kami hai,
Bachpun, larakpun, jawani, shaadi byah,
Aal aulaad, bhurhapa, hai dastoor-e-dunya,
Phir youn jo rok daytay ho zindagi ki garhi,
Toh tum main kuch toh kami hai,
Waqt maangtay ho, toh waqt aur kitna,
Rishta jurha hai toh nibhana bhi seekho,
Hai yeh bhi nibhna ka he hissa warna,
Toh tum main kuch toh kami hai,
Saath bitanay kay liyay umar hai tamaam,
Bus maan lo yeh, phir humko hai araam,
Tumhari he khushi chahtay hain sab,
Bus tumharay samajhnay he ki kami hai,
Yeh sun sun kay kaan bhi kuch sun say hain ab,
Kehtay hain kay woh bun jayay ga ik door,
Inkaar naheen waqt maanga per mila zor,
Kay tum main he kuch toh kami hai,
Door naheen, insaan hai woh, zanjeer na banao,
Khushi main lapait kar bairhi na pehnao,
Waqt ki zaroorat maantay ho tum ussay,
Toh phir dunya, tum main kuch kami hai,
Aadha adhoora, kuch toota kuch poora,
Bebus sa bachpun naheen dayna uss ko hamain,
Waqt do iss rishtay aur khud ko samajhnay ko,
Tumhari he soch main dunya, kuch toh kami hai,
Woh ho iss ki khatir naheen nibhana yeh bandhan,
Yeh bandhan hai iss waastay naheen lana uss ko,
Khushi bun kay aamud ho uss ki, majboori naheen,
Iss baat ko samajhnay ki he toh kami hai,
Umar beeti jayay ab toh ho ga behtar,
Jab aayay woh toh na ho phir pashtawa,
Per tum kartay ho faqt waqt ki fikar,
Toh dunya tum main he kuch toh kami hai,
Kehtay ho ab naheen toh kab,
Jawaab shayud hum ko bhi maloom naheen,
Dil say khwahish ho gee kabhi toh kaheen,
Iss baat ki samajhnay ki tum main kami hai,
Sadiyaan naheen, lumhay churanay ka hai sawaal,
Phisalnay do haath say waqt ki rait ko abhi,
Takay jab aayay toh ho woh khushgawaar khayaal,
Iss baat ki samajhnay ki tum main kami hai,
Aur kya hua agar haqiqut main kuch kami hai,
Yaksaan toh her ungli bhi naheen bani hai,
Khoon say naheen dil say hain rishtay,
Iss baat ko samajhnay ki he toh kami hai,
Apnay say bhi zada apna lain gay ussay,
Uss ki bhi zindagi main kuch toh kami hai,
Haath thaam aik doosray ka beetay zindagi,
Iss waastay he toh dunya bani hai,
Phir phair lain kisi kay sir peh ik haath,
Paraya maantay ho gay phir tum jo ussay,
Toh phir mujh main naheen, uss main naheen,
Tum main dunya kuch toh kami hai.
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Parenthood is a beautiful thing.
But in South East Asian societies it is treated differently.
A duty. An obligation. A right of passage.
Name it anything you want.
But it is definitely not left up-to just the couple.
Everyone has something to say, a lot to say.
An uncomfortable invasion of personal space, that is a concept they refuse to understand.
At this stage in life I see my own friends and their siblings getting hitched and the questions are raised within just a month or more.
Something highly personal is treated like a topic worthy of public debate so here goes something for this society.
The baby boomers will refuse to understand.
Millennials, I hope at least you're better parents than the generations before in this regard, understand such matters should be left to the couple alone and don't force this question answer session upon your kids.